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287 | Stepping Outside Your Comfort Zone with Andy Molinsky

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Getting too comfortable is a problem. In fact, it may be the reason why you are “fine” or “OK” with your life or business right now. You have heard about getting outside your comfort zone. Well, our guest today is a master at this. He wrote the book on it. Andy Molinsky shares wisdom to help you grow and evolve. This is a big show…lean in.

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Target Audience: Andy serves multiple types of people. He is a professor at Brandeis University in the business and psychology department. He is a business author, who consults teaches and trains.

Why did You Have to Write your Book: Reach?

Andy shares that the message in the book Reach was something that was inside of him already. It is about how he has and continues to step outside his comfort zone. Andy believes that his struggles are what allowed him to be more finely attuned to the challenges of stepping out comfort zones.  

As an author, he chose to write on a topic where he encountered the most trouble. It is where the greatest insights and motivations come from.

What keeps people inside their comfort zones? People fear they may lack:

  • Authenticity
  • Competence
  • Likability
  • Morality

Living with Conviction

Courage is not the absence of fear. Courage is the ability to take action in spite of fear. That is why Andy says we must live life with much Conviction. It is important that we are able to stick with discomfort.

If we have identified and feel our deep sense of purpose we automatically know our why. Knowing WHY you are interested in doing something that scares you keeps your momentum going when things get tough.

In this episode we’ll cover:

  • Cultivating conviction to get us through obstacles
  • Learning about customization
  • Becoming clear on your WHY
  • Choosing courage despite the fears
  • What keeps people in their comfort zones (& how to avoid this)

Practical and Actionable:

The third element (which comes after Conviction & Customization) is: Clarity

  1. Take out 3 pieces of paper (or create 3 sections somehow).
  2. Write down: Worst case scenario, best case scenario and realistic case scenario.
  3. Put a “likelihood” rating on it on a scale of 1-10. How likely is it that this will occur?
  4. Rate all 3.

What usually happens with this is: you stop fixating on the worst case scenario (and realize it is unlikely) and then you begin to have a grounded perspective. Don’t fixate on the worst or best case scenario. This helps to ground you in the present.  

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238 | Getting Out of your Comfort Zone with Dr. Liz Bywater

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Living for comfort is a mistake. Yes…if you seek comfort in all that you do, you will fail to grow and navigate the challenges of life. This interview is all about understanding your comfort zone and stepping outside that zone so that you grow. Dr. Liz Bywater is our guest who shares her views on the comfort zone.

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Target Audience: Dr. Liz Bywater works with leaders across the Fortune 500 companies. She serves leaders and teams. The focus is always on helping them do their best work. It is about elevating performance, being more effective, making the right decisions and getting things done.

Transitions in Roles: Moving Out of Comfort Zones

Dr. Liz has a passion for Leadership teams. She loves to guide individual leaders in pulling together their teams. This could be a matter of hiring new people – re-organizing the team or even helping the team to understand the overall vision and direction. Also very important is that they have good ground rules for working with one another.

Whether it is a parallel move or any other type of move, there will always be new ways you must learn to have impact.

 

What’s in the way of making a transition or that next step for most people?

People are in a role for a certain period of time. One gets to know where their strengths are and probably risen to a leadership level based on expertise. At each step we are being pushed farther and farther beyond our intrinsic comfort zones. According to Dr. Liz, you have to try new things and interact with people in different ways. You have to communicate on a higher level.

Sometimes you are asked to transition into a role that’s exciting yet intimidating. You are required to utilize certain leadership skills you may have not learned. Or those skills could be sitting in you waiting to come out and you just don’t know it yet!

 

The Concept Behind the Infamous Comfort Zone

There’s lots of validity around the idea according to Dr. Liz. However, whatever degree of comfort there may be, there is always room for the potential to stretch. But who we are at our core (our confidence) determines so much. Dr. Liz is all about the ‘fake it until you make it’ idea. She says, show people you know what you are doing. People will see the confidence you are projecting. Get intentional about what is you want to grow.

Get out of the worry place in your head. Get excited and ready to go. You can do this on a daily basis. Take a pause and a breath at some time in your office so that you are prepared, posed and confident about what you are about to deliver. Prepare yourself to engender the confidence of the people around you.

We’re living in a world where people have never felt more rushed and there’s no way to sugar coat it. People are running around as if there is a fire everywhere. This is not a sustainable model or a growth model for individuals. And while it is a challenge, it is not an insurmountable challenge.

A “Forced Pause”: What a session with Dr. Liz Bywater looks like…

Dr. Liz asks her clients: What are you trying to achieve and what are the best actions- what will get you to your end goal?

Ask yourself: What on items could be tackled your calendar today that will help me get to my goal more quickly? And what can I take off? By deciding what to take off, I’m deciding if this is something that I have to do or someone else has to do.  Take it off your plate. Also the question of when is of essence? Will it be now? Later? Never? This helps one to come up with real strategic ways to do things to move forward more rapidly.

The Inner Game

The inner game is essential. Your inner belief system determines how you decide the actions you take.

Dr. Liz holds up a mirror to people – so they can understand their own impact. She asks about 8-10 people in the company questions about her client. This gives insight into how the client is coming across.

The Model Dr. Liz uses: “PRP”

PAUSE- assess where you are and where you have been

REFLECT- take the time to look at what you bring to the table; what are the gaps?

PROJECT- Taking action. Identify and determine how you will reach your goal

Why Executives Dr. Liz?

Dr. Liz chose to work with executives because they are motivated and want to take action. She finds them to be smart, motivated and interesting. Likewise, they can impact those who work all around them. The culture they set has major impact. The impact is broad, wide, deep and thus meaningful!

Practical and Actionable

Write down your PRP. Decide to take a deliberate pause  (determine how much time you’d like to take out for this). Take a deep dive and develop your strategy using this model. Create your dynamic plan.

Resources and Links

How is your business going…would you like to talk about it?

I love my audience of listeners. I really do. I would love to help you in some way. I started doing calls with listeners and realized that it was a great way to understand you.

Okay, then I formalized the process to offer a Results Roadmap… it is a private one-on-one call with me about your business. I want to help you see your roadmap with more clarity and confidence. Find out more about the Results Roadmap (it takes you to my personal website). This is not a sales pitch. Let me serve you.

A QUICK FAVOR

And lastly, please leave a rating and review for the Leaders in the Trenches on iTunes (or Stitcher) – it will help us in many ways, but it also inspires us to keep doing what we are doing here. Thank you in advance!