244 | From Expectation Hangover to Finding Happiness Within with Christine Hassler

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Christine Hassler, author of the book Expectation Hangover gets vulnerable about how she found true happiness. In using the experience of a crisis, she found the excuse to go through a soul transformation. Now she helps others do the same! On this episode, we talk about how the way to do truly impactful work is by answering our own inner calling. It is about understanding that the answers cannot be found anywhere outside of ourselves.

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Target Audience: Christine travels the globe hosting retreats and speaks at events. She helps people answer the vital questions of: Who am I? What do I want? How do I get it? And What’s the impact I want to make?

After a quarter life crisis and several personal and professional losses, Christine decided to reorient her life. She realized she had been seeking happiness outside herself. Yet, she finally understood happiness could only be found from within. This understanding totally flipped her orientation and perspective on life.

Expectation Hangover (Christine’s published book)

What was aching inside that made the book happen? Christine shares that the stream of crises provided a huge window of opportunity for transformation to occur. It’s what Christine calls the “Expectation hangover.” We want to get out of the feeling of pain, disappointment as quickly as possible. Some of us see it as an opportunity for healing. It is a chance to get out of destructive cycles you may be repeating.

When it comes to heartache, (in business or personal) ‘quick fixes’ don’t really cut it. This, Christine wanted to create a holistic and comprehensive book that serves as a treatment plan to help people heal from some of their deepest pains.

On a soul level, it is important to feel in touch with our gifts, like we are leaving behind a legacy. At the core, each of us wants to create something that is meaningful. The hard part is that we are wired and taught how to achieve success externally and logistically. We are not taught to know what success really feels like on an internal level. We’re not taught how to look at our own shadows.

To do impactful work, we have to be clear. We need a solid foundation. It is easy to build a business that makes money but not as easy to build something truly connected to who we are on the soul level.

Sometimes we need an expectation hangover to get ourselves in gear. But sometimes we are afraid of making the changes because of the unknown future. And then, the universe might bring us that expectation hangover because something needed to change. All in all, we are the ones who manifest the changes in our lives.

Activating People to Move Forward with More Clarity

What Christine first does to help her clients is identify their compensatory strategy. As babies we were totally whole. Then life events caused us to have these compensatory strategies in attempts to feel that wholeness again. For example becoming a people pleaser or an over achiever are 2 examples of a compensatory strategy. The motivation stems from a place of lack. This way of living is unsustainable if true happiness and fulfillment is what one seeks.

What is motivating your success, truly? Does it stem from some pain? Shift to the possibility of what you could create based on INSPIRATION rather than MOTIVATION. That changes the context of what SUCCESS really means!

What’s the difference between INSPIRATION VS. MOTIVATION

Motivation- IS a drive and a push. Often people are hard on themselves and they don’t even realize it. Pressure- very heady and stems from an external rather than internal.

Inspiration – is about feeling. It is an inner CALLING. There are feelings of excitement, enthusiasm and resonance with who you are. Inspiration comes from vision and moves us forward. It has a much lighter quality while also having momentum.

In this episode we’ll cover:

  • Seeking happiness from within
  • Using crisis for transformation
  • How to do impactful work
  • Answering our Souls’ inner calling

Practical and Actionable:

Get out a piece of paper. Mark it 1-5
Write down your top 5 core values. Most can’t do it. Or perhaps they haven’t given it a lot of thought. Our values are our compass. That’s how we know what we are inspired by. Before making decisions, check in to see if the decision lines up with those values. Write down your vision. Use your imagination productively. Rather than worry, create a positive vision. Write it, see it, feel it every day. Let your vision be your gas to pull you forward.

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How is your business going…would you like to talk about it?

I love my audience of listeners. I really do. I would love to help you in some way. I started doing calls with listeners and realized that it was a great way to understand you.

Okay, then I formalized the process to offer a Results Roadmap… it is a private one-on-one call with me about your business. I want to help you see your roadmap with more clarity and confidence. Find out more about the Results Roadmap (it takes you to my personal website). This is not a sales pitch. Let me serve you.


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243 | Recap of 2016 with Gene Hammett

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243 | Recap of 2016 with Gene Hammett

Join us on this very special episode where I share the good, the bad and the ugly of 2016. I talk about what worked, what didn’t and the transformational changes I am going through. I get real and vulnerable about what the Trap of Success means to me and how to reach for more than a comfort zone. Plus, I share some of the exciting upcoming projects I’ve got going on to help you step up your game.

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Target Audience: Gene serves individuals who are committed. They already are or are on their way to becoming leaders. They are not afraid of doing the work to create a thriving business.

I started off the year 2016 with 3 words which set an intention, a tone, a theme. Those words were:

  • Focus
  • Connection
  • Transformation

On this episode, I want to share with you how I grew internally and how that showed up in my business.
Why this episode?

  1. I want you to understand me. It’s about genuine and authentic connection. It is important for me to show who I am.
  2. I want to help you make better decisions for you, your business and your life. My purpose in sharing myself is to help you grow forward.

FOCUS: What it means to me…

I chose the word FOCUS because I realized that I was losing out on opportunities. I was spread across too many different projects.

So, I decided to engage in a “100 Day Challenge” back in January. I committed to having 100 conversations. The outcome of that was I got 4 speaking gigs, new clients and partnerships. This was all because I forced myself to focus on making those phone calls. I released that filter of fear to call someone I didn’t know. A breakthrough for me was when I transformed the barriers. After doing this in the beginning of 2016, I received a fantastic jolt in my business.

Writing My Book: The Trap of Success

This was admittedly a tough process. I heard so many people say, “The best book you’ll ever read, is the book you write yourself.” I delved into the concept of fear- how it impacts me and others. I martialled through that and now I am ready to amp that up to the next level in the coming year.


I got a few paid gigs. And there were other gigs that got me clients. I also go to help others get speaking gigs that connected them to potential clients.

The RIGHT Clients

I had some instances of having a funny feeling when enrolling people. I had this gut feeling where I knew it wasn’t going to be right. But, I took them on anyway. And this ended up sucking time and energy out of me. I realized that when I focus on choosing the right clients- those I’d have dinner with maybe – (or people I just truly enjoy being around) those are usually the right fit. My clients are those whom I like at the core and I happen to also appreciate the impact they are making.


Such an important word. The intention of this word stemmed from a desire to be more present for others. I want to be there for clients and people in my life. For instance, when it comes to speaking, it is more than just words. I realized that there is a unique mechanism there- which is your uniqueness. It is something no one else has- yet it can be a scary to show your true self. Yet, it allows others to see you in a different light. It allows them to select you as THE choice, not just A choice.

For example, when I work with a client who wants to take speaking to the next level, I focus on helping them identify where they are speaking, getting the right speech in front of the right audience and how to deliver that speech in the right way. That maximizes CONNECTION.

Without the right audience, your message cannot be heard. Writing the speech with the connection in mind, helps you to write a speech that moves the audience. This is where Connection trumps Communication.  



I shifted my own perception of how I see the world. I am still shifting into the person that I want to be in order to receive the results and goals important to me for my growth and significance.

What Were My Struggles?

Patience. Not my strong suit. I realized growth comes from pain and adversity and it continues. Those are moments for growth and an opportunity to step in. Time management is huge. I know now that I must hone in on what’s really important so that I have maximum energy to execute on those things. Having that down time to recharge is equally as important.


2017 & What’s Coming Up!

My word for 2017 UNSTOPPABLE. What does that mean? To me, it means having clarity and direction to move forward.
The Trap of Success in coming out. Go here to access it. 

Download the first 2 chapters. Do what’s inside the book and let me know what impact is coming up for you.

Authority Camp is also coming out. This is a self study/virtual program on how to use speaking to get clients. It is about discovering and booking the right gigs. It will teach you how to write the speech that can be used over and over again. A free training will be available. Stay tuned!



In this episode we’ll cover:

  • The good, the bad and the ugly of 2016
  • How Focus, Connection & Transformation played out in 2016
  • My struggle with patience
  • The vulnerability it takes to connect with others
  • What I’ve got coming up for you in 2017


Practical and Actionable:

Download the first 2 chapters of The Trap of Success HERE. 

Do what’s inside the book and let me know what impact is coming up for you by getting in touch with me for a conversation.


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